It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
But for many Christian moms, it can also be a time when our to-do lists are seemingly endless and we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, burnt out and depleted. If this is you, take heart! There is hope in finding peace amid all the hustle and bustle. Read on to learn how to bring back renewed joy during this season.
Quiet Time Daily
The first step in bringing back peace and joy during this season is committing to quiet time every day—even if it’s just for a few minutes preferably first thing in the morning. Trust me on this! Get up just a few minutes early, find a quiet spot (even if it’s your closet), and just sit and be still. Pray for guidance and patience as you tackle your daily tasks. You will be amazed at how much more peaceful your day becomes with that extra bit of reflection.
Change Your Expectations
It’s important to remember that perfection isn’t real—not even during the holidays. Being a mom can be hard enough without adding unrealistic expectations into the mix. Lowering those expectations can help you find joy in all of your imperfections and make room for grace when things don’t go as planned.
Fill Your Cup First
This looks different for everyone but some popular examples include exercising, reading, journaling, going for a drive solo or a simple deep breathing session. A little bit of self-care goes a long way towards keeping stress levels low and allowing us to enjoy what this season has to offer while making memories with family and friends along the way minus the resentment that comes with lack of rest!
Reclaim Your Joy This Holiday Season No matter what other people expect from you or how busy life feels right now, you have permission to full your cup first so that it can overflow onto others! Daily quiet time will bring back a sense of peace needed to replenish both energy and money reserves so that you can make it through these busy weeks until January rolls around again! So take heart - there is hope in finding peace amid all the hustle and bustle! Give yourself permission to say yes to yourself, pause, breathe deeply, pray for guidance, lower expectations, practice self-care - whatever it takes - so that you can reclaim your joy this holiday season and look back with fond memories.
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Happy Holidays from Our Family to Yours!
Soooo if you know me you know I love to talk about healthy living and quality of life right? At the core of that is alone time with God! Well your girl just got published along with some other brilliant minds on the subject over on UpJourney!
It's a long read full of great information but if you just want to see my quote keep scrolling till you see me smiling back at you!
I would love to know your thoughts on the article so feel free to share in the comments!
Here's the link to the article https://upjourney.com/how-to-improve-your-quality-of-life
Have the BEST day and God Bless!
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You thought that working from home would provide the best of both worlds allowing you to be at home with your kids and make an income, but now you're questioning if you are cut out for this.
You feel like you're rocking at one and failing at the other or that one roll sacrifices to make the other work.
Whatever you're feeling, I'm going to assume that if you're reading this, you're feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and tired. I know from personal experience that if you stay there too long, it will very likely leave you feeling broken. I'm also going to guess that you don't want to admit how you are feeling to others for fear of sounding ungrateful, guilty, resentful, cranky etc.
Soooo instead of complaining, you suffer in silence and continue down this dark path until it makes you ill, drives you to drink or makes you feel like you need a one-month vacation just to sleep.
If this is you, keep reading because I am about to share a few things that were game changers that took me from a place of overwhelm to a place of fulfillment knowing that I would no longer have to look back over my life with regrets. Simply put, these things helped me feel whole again.
Committing to at Least 10 Minutes of "Me" Time in Every Single Day
This may seem counter-intuitive if you are already feeling as if you already feel like there is not enough hours in the day but trust me, this is key! I would encourage you to start each and every day with at least 10 minutes of time just for you.
What do you do for those 10 minutes? I would highly suggest that it does not include anything on your phone because we all know that the moment we pick up our phones we will see that someone (e-mails, notifications, texts etc.) needs us and it will stop you from finding peace.
Here's what my 10 minutes started out like:
- Getting up 10 minutes earlier than normal (I didn't used to be a morning person, so I'm not going to pretend that this was easy, but I will say that it was well worth it.)
- Drinking a full glass of room temp water
- Sitting in complete silence for at least one minute pushing gently releasing any thoughts that would break that silence (If you have no idea how to actually shut off your thoughts, I share about it HERE)
- Going for a quick walk around the block
Listening to the Daily Audio Bible Ap
This ap is great because it's only about 20 minutes a day. I can listen while I'm driving and Brian (The guy that does the reading) shares such great inside and background on each book, and passages that may raise questions.
If you listen every day for a year you will have listened to the entire bible and likely be able to understand it in a way you may not have before. This in and of itself will bring you more peace even if you miss a day or two here and there.
In keeping with 10 minutes per day listen to each day for at least 5 minutes and pick up where you left off the next day or listen while driving like I do. There is a feature where you can check off the days in the app as you finish listening so that you can go at your own pace.
If you just rolled your eyes, I totally felt that at first too, This became a part of my 10-minute me time as well. I simply found a cute blank journal and wrote 3 things that I am happy about and/or grateful for daily.
What this did. was made me look for things to be grateful for for the rest of the day so that I would have something to write the next day no matter how small and it made me pause and appreciate small moments I otherwise would have missed. This is huge for work-from-home moms because it will allow you to focus on the good, like if you got one moment with your family that you otherwise wouldn't have, it makes it all much more worth it!
Picking a "Peace Trigger"
I can't remember where I heard about this, but it was brilliant! Here's how it works. You choose an action like walking through a doorway, drinking your water etc. or a common object like a pen or stapler or something you see at least a few times a day and decide that when you do that action or see that object, you will take a deep breath and think of the last good thing that happened in your life however small.
I highly suggest implementing this especially if the gratefulness journal isn't for you right now.
Finding a Form of Exercise You Love
This is something I struggled with for over 7 years after my daughter was born. I would find something I loved and be consistent for a week. maybe two and then find every excuse as to why I couldn't until I finally decided to try out a circuit training gym called F45 and I fell in love!
You don't have to join a gym if that's not your thing, but I will tell you that finding a form of movement that you actually want to show up for and miss when you don't is life-changing and brings a whole other level of confidence to your whole being. Not to mention you may feel better in your clothes as a bonus.
In this case, the motivation has nothing to do with the number on the scale or your clothing size and everything to do with learning to say yes to you and show up for something that is just for you and the mental clarity and uplifting effect it has for the rest of the day!
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There may not be an F45 gym near you or that may not be your thing, but there is a free app I like called FitOn that you can do from anywhere but promise me you will shut off notifications on your phone while you're working out so that you can focus.
Whether you choose to implement one or all of these things, I would love to hear if they help you! If you feel like you need encouragement, I've built a community just for mamas like you over on Facebook where I offer free group coaching every week! Check it out HERE.
I checked all of the boxes…
Go to college, get good grades while learning to live on coffee and Ramen, fielding late night calls from professors asking where I was because my project was not complete and on my desk at 11 pm almost a full day before it was due and reminding me that sleep was a luxury. Graduate with honors.
Get married to the true love of my life, my college sweetheart who I met by the grace of God 6 years before I finally felt I had accomplished enough to say I do. Thank you Jesus that you gave him patience. Lol…but seriously!
Get a good job that would require me to prove my worth in a field dominated by very conservative men.
Buy a house in a nice neighborhood and a car that didn’t require weekly repairs and “fit in” to said neighborhood.
Have babies and decide that it was best for our family that I leave my job to stay at home with them because my heart broke when I toured each and every childcare option and the cost was not justifiable when compared to my salary and expenses.
I thought at this point that I would slow down and truly treasure this time with the tiny person we had made, and I did, until my first baby started walking and we learned we were pregnant with our second and I was already starting my third business from home. Mom boss culture was my MO and I was officially addicted to “busy”.
Seemingly in the blink of an eye my kiddos were 6 and 4 and as much as I loved the life we had built, I was constantly overstimulated, overstressed and I would seethe with jealousy any time I saw another mom post about a girl’s weekend somewhere.
Then, I saw THE post. I’m not even sure who posted it, or exactly what it was about but I do remember that it was about the importance of “me” time which seemed to be a hot topic lately. I normally flippantly laughed these off and kept scrolling, but this time one of the comments caught my eye. A fellow mama said “My “me” time is on the toilet with the door open in the 30 seconds it takes my toddler to realize that I’ve “left her forever”.
My first thought, oh my goodness! This girl gets it and I’m not alone!! My second, is this what motherhood is meant to be? What are we teaching our children if we are constantly modeling stress, overwhelm and unhealthy sacrifice showing up as skeleton versions of ourselves in order to meet their needs? If we are constantly telling them that Mama needs a break from them, what does that do to their self-worth?
That’s when I knew that something needed to change and it had to be in a way that was realistic and sustainable for me, so I made a commitment to myself that I would find 10 minutes every day for “me” time. What would I do with that 10 minutes? At first, I just sat quietly, took a walk, journaled, read, or prayed. Whatever my heart told me that I wanted….not need….to do just for me at that time. The to-do list could wait.
I also told myself I was also not going to allow any negative thoughts to stick around in that 10 minutes so if any came in, I would picture a warm blanket being wrapped around it and gently push it away in favor of something positive. I allowed myself to dream, picture the ideal version of myself doing exactly what she was put here to do.
Was it hard at first? Absolutely! After about a week or two, I learned to look forward to that 10 minutes and started looking for ways to extend my time to allow me to actually step into the much better, healthier, and healed version of me that I had pictured. I started setting goals and identifying habits that I needed to change or implement in order to get me there. I felt less guilty about asking for help and the best part, I started enjoying my time with my family SO much more! I started to actually like me again!!
If you resonate with any of this please know I see you and also know that all of these things are possible for you as well. I’ve created a group over on Facebook of women just like you that are committing to 10 minutes of “me” and seeing where it takes them. If you would like to join us and take the challenge here’s your link! (Click Here) I can’t wait to see what it does for you!